What will they remember?

Writing in the midst of packing for a quick trip to Taipei. It's the first time I'll be flying by myself for pleasure since the kids were born. I'm also looking forward to being in Taipei with my sister, just the two of us. It might be the first time since we left in 1985.

Although it's a short trip, my heart is feeling rather heavy today because I'm dreading being away from Buddy and Little Guy. Upon reflection this morning, I realized that I don't want to miss out and I want to be in their memories. Practically speaking, this trip is a little crazy. I'll be on the ground for 36 hours and on the plane for 4 hours each way. So, why do I want to go so badly? It is precisely the fact that my sister will be there and we will have a chance to be by ourselves. It's a chance for a walk down memory lane of my formative years with my sister, with whom I shared many experiences in those years.

Most of the happy memories in my childhood were from those years growing up in Taiwan. Favorite foods that formed my taste buds' preferred flavors and textures. Hot tin lunch boxes that formed the basis of my preference for warm meals. Walks with my grandparents that grounded me and taught me to look for nature amongst the bricks. A broken down temple that served as a playground for imaginary play and offered endless opportunities for social skills development. Family outings at the rocky beaches and rivers that instilled in me a love of water.

What will my kids remember from their formative years? Buddy gave me a little insight about that this week when I asked him what his class was going to do for Father's Day celebration. Instead of telling me what his class was doing, he seemed to be pondering what he wanted to do for his Baba. 

Then, he said …

"I don't know what to make for Baba." - I listened so he can continue to share what he's thinking. 

"I don't want to make anything for Baba." - I replied with "ok" and continued to listen with curiosity.

"I just want to do stuff with him." - I thought "wow!" and said "that's a great idea! we don't always have to make things. sometimes having experiences together is the best gift!"

"Yeah!" - he flashed a contented smile.

We, as humans, are social beings and naturally crave connection. Perhaps this is a way for Buddy to tell us that he just wants to be with us most of the time. It's not about the toys or going anywhere specific (though he does love Legoland)? It's about being together and connecting. So … more walks and more experiences together! This shall be a constant reminder. :)